I don’t know about you but I love people watching, there is just something about watching how a person expresses themselves the mannerisms etc. I think it this stems from the fact that I loved communications at college and we did a whole term on body language.
Anyway back to my musings, I noticed whilst people watching how people are afraid to express their feelings. Like the good old question
“How are you?” , why do we always say we are ok, fine.
Why not say it how it is, well its like this I had a rubbish night sleep, my baby is crying continuously, I have a 101 places to be and I’m exhausted. Your crying inside I need someone to talk to, but British stiff upper lip, no we are not allowed to show our emotions. No I’m fine
Then there is the over-confident person who has done this that and the other, but in reality most probably hasn’t. Why do people feel the need to big themselves up, what does it achieve. Yes I am a stay at home mum, I look after 4 children. In a previous life before children I was a care assistant/nursing assistant and was asked by my boss to train as an occupational therapist. I have umpteen qualifications but decided 10 years ago I wanted to be a full-time mum. What does that matter, it doesn’t change what person you are underneath does it .?
Then you have the quiet timid type, I call them the YES people. I can guarantee what ever someone asks to do, them to do they will say “YES”. Even it means that they have to go out of their way to do it. I used to be like that I wanted to please everyone, but do you know you can’t please everyone, you have to let down/upset people once in a while.
Then there is the callous I don’t care if I hurt you type. I can be as down right rude, obnoxious to you as I want. Well, actually you can’t because you know why I am a human being, I have feelings. Even if I don’t show it you are hurting me inside, you don’t see when I cry because you don’t like me. I couldn’t be like you
I’m sure a lot of you can relate to what I am saying. Now imagine if you were a child who has problems with social encounters how would they perceive people do they see them for what they really are or do they see the person they pretend to be. Is worth thinking about, it all down to observations